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The fear of success automatically causes you to fail; so it would stand to reason that the fear of failure would cause you to succeed. Well the bad news is is that the fear of anything is always a point for failure.

There is a young lady that is, by all accounts, a very talented person. She has choosen to follow her heart and do what makes her soul smile. The problem being that she really hasn't actively followed through. There have been some wins and there have been some losses; but who hasn't experienced both of those things? After years of living at the status quo she decided to figure out why there hasn't been a whole lot of advancement. With a lot of self examination the gates opened up and out came the answer.

This young lady was afraid of both success and failure! Wow, this was a big revelation because it's something that seems to be two ideas that are at war with other. After a little more self-exploration the reason was apparent. Fear of success keeps you from stepping out and trying to reach for the sky because you just may do it and to whom much is given much is required so once you have reached success then you will be required to do so much more and people expect greatness from you all the time. Fear of failure keeps you from stepping out and trying to reach for the sky because what if you don't achieve exactly what it is that you wanted? Not so much of a war anymore huh?

What the young lady has learned is a great deal about herself and that she can do what ever she wants if she lets the fear go. It's okay to be a little afraid but that doesn't mean that you should let that grow into fear. Fear is an emotion that controls your life. Take back the control that you need for your dreams to be realized.

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