Keep It Sybil

The month of October has several awarenesses. I spoke before of liver cancer awareness.  Today I will speak about Domestic violence. This is such a taboo topic I hope I can encourage even one person to get out.  Talking about domestic violence is like talking about a person being raped; legally the qualifications are set but in real life it can be subjective.  Unfortunately,  not enough of the legal process is known by civilians so it's easy to not want to speak up for fear of one's safety or not wanting to be opened up to criticism. It really is a difficult position to be in and to get out of.  The Carmichael Show was genius.  If you have never watched it then go to Hulu and watch all 3 seasons,  you will not be sorry. In the 3rd season,  Maxine is telling her boyfriend and his family that her friend was raped. She proceeds to tell them what happened and Joe says something like,  wait a minute did I miss the part about the rape? He then lame...

Alright, so if you feel that something weird is happening with your body then please go to the doctor or to a reputable clinic and get every test that’s needed to help you feel good about the answers you are getting.  You can be a pain or a nuisance when you are trying to figure out what is happening inside of your body.  You have the right to get the help that you need. The month of October has several awarenesses attached to it and they are very personal to me.  The one thing about these awarenesses, liver and breast cancer and blindness awareness, I have a person or people that I love that have been affected by these diseases.  Right now I will talk a little about liver cancer.  The liver is an organ that most of us rarely even think about I am sure, but it is very important to our well-being.  Let me give a little background info on the processes of the liver. The liver is the organ that removes the toxins from your blood.  It is also responsible f...

I know as well as the next person that dwelling on a negative isn't really a good thing to do.  Now that I've said it here is a little unsolicited advice. I give advice or information to help people that may feel as if they are alone in a situation.  Ok, people is me. So here it goes. There is a difference between dwelling and remembering. Dwelling means a place you are living.  If you wake up in the negativity.  Then you give it a piggy back ride through the day and sit it on the edge of the tub while you shower then cuddle it at night and have dreams about it,  you are living inside of that negative situation. Run, run,  run. You know that is not a good place to be.  Living in negativity is why your hair isn't thick and luscious.  It's why your skin looks like a pebbled road and your complexion is dirty looking and those extra 25 pounds won't let go of you.  Your bones hurt,  your vision is cloudy and you can't even poop any more. I do...

I started blogging to be transparent.  I was taught that telling my story may help someone else.  I have a short story to share.  You never know what a person is going through.  You could see them one day and not realize that the day before that something tragic may have occurred in their life.  Or, they told you they would do something and they didn't.  Now if you know that person is solid and stands by their word, why are you being them? You had the opportunity to show grace but instead you chose selfishness. I promise you that everyone wants kindness. Truly, over the past couple of years there have been situations in my life that have made things almost unbearable. Yes,  I have made attempts to improve them and that was happening until the pandemic hit.  As much as people life to say just change what you don't like, the truth is, that's not always possible immediately. Show grace.  I am never going to look like what is going on in my life ...

As I evolve and begin to deal with my self there are many things I have realized about me. I am a kind person which means that I am also nice in some regards but not in every circumstance.  Unfortunately,  my niceness has been dwindling a little over the past few years because it's been taken for granted and as a weakness. I feel good about this aspect of my being though. I figured out another aspect of myself that had been hard to swallow. I have tried to be kind to myself on this journey.  A little background,  I am my parent's youngest child, is actually just my sister and I.  I have tons of cousins in both of my parent's side, a good mix of male and female. I always tell people that I was my dad's son. I just mean that because I was his last child he taught me things that traditionally would be good things to teach a son. I love that he did that. He was always there so I always had a very positive male energy growing up. My dad was the definition of a real m...

I have started and stopped writing so many posts in the past couple of years that I lost count. That's ok because if I didn't write it that means it wasn't time for it to be read. Now,  things are screaming to get out of my head and into a post. Right now I am going to talk a bit about a couple of famous guys that I admire.  Now,  in my actual life I admire so many people and that's why I am making this distinction. These two guys are named Shawn and Cameron.  They are both, better known as Jay Z and Cam'ron, respectively and I admire them for the same fundamental reason. Shawn is from Brooklyn and Cameron is from Harlem. In New York these two places couldn't be further apart from each other.  Not geographically but in every other way.  Shawn was born in the mid sixties and Cameron about a decade later.  These guys make me smile.  Reasonable Doubt,  was a great album but the one that really well,  set the blueprint was The Blueprint. ...

So,  hindsight is 20/20.  It really is easy to see things clearly when you are on the other side.   The reality is,  in the moment,  the signs are there, it's just so difficult to read them with your heart.  Once you are on the other side,  your heart is no longer trying to read so it becomes more clear.   2020 has shown me this very clearly.  I was a bit down when the year came in because I had a tradition that was crapped on by someone else.  It was so easy for them to stomp on it that my eyes opened a little and my heart closed a little.  Lesson taken; time to go forward.  In came February and my spirit perked up because I enjoy getting older.  I was turning 45 and I couldn't wait.  I was hired in a position I enjoyed with a company that was terrific and my co-workers were nice people.  Now, my plan can take form. Rebuilding me! I started taking care of some debt.  I hadn't had bad credit even 5...