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Abuse=no

The month of October has several awarenesses. I spoke before of liver cancer awareness.  Today I will speak about Domestic violence. This is such a taboo topic I hope I can encourage even one person to get out. 

Talking about domestic violence is like talking about a person being raped; legally the qualifications are set but in real life it can be subjective.  Unfortunately,  not enough of the legal process is known by civilians so it's easy to not want to speak up for fear of one's safety or not wanting to be opened up to criticism. It really is a difficult position to be in and to get out of. 

The Carmichael Show was genius.  If you have never watched it then go to Hulu and watch all 3 seasons,  you will not be sorry. In the 3rd season,  Maxine is telling her boyfriend and his family that her friend was raped. She proceeds to tell them what happened and Joe says something like,  wait a minute did I miss the part about the rape? He then laments about what he felt was rape.  The scene is hilarious but when applying it to real- life, it's scary. In both cases, the aggresor is a coward that is seeking power and control. I want everyone to be aware of aspects of violence that is not traditionally spoken of as violent.

Someone in your face yelling is abuse.  Being called names like trash, bitch, piece-of-shit, worthless, etc..., this is abuse. Someone threatening you, that's abuse.  Having a person put their hands on you is not the only form of abuse.  Now pertaining to domestic violence,  touching and sex is personal.  Regardless of how many times you have given approval or only takes one no being ignored to constitute sexual abuse.  We must stop giving a slide to abusive behavior simply because you aren't in physical pain. Emotionally abusing and psychologically abusing a person is abuse.  Those are forms of domestic violence. If you are a victim of any abuse or if you know someone that is being abused please don't keep quiet. 
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