Keep It Sybil

It's been a while since I have made a confession so here it is.  This one is hard for me to speak but I know the only way to deal is to make it real so it can be put down.  First of all I need to say that you never know how you will react to a situation until you are faced head on with that situation.  You can say how you would like to react or how you would hope to react but, there's nothing like the reality of the situation slapping you in your face.  Just by nature I am very optimistic.  That being said I am also idealistic and realistic.  Everything can have a positive spin.  Even when you think all hope is gone there is positivity to be had.  Four years ago my house caught fire and I lost maybe 75% of my things.  I was never sad about it because there were things I was holding onto to that kept me in my past.  Well, going forward is hard when you have the past staring you down everyday.  I lost plenty but I actually gained mo...

Recently, in the past two weeks or so my oldest son had a former classmate kill himself.  Then I find out that I've of the young man's friends was supposed to go over and talk with him about his life.  That friend had a last minute situation and decided he would go another time.  That time never arrived, the young man shot himself in the head.  It got me thinking about our connection to others. I know several people who would rather not get involved or hear too much about others issues.  The only problem with that is that none of us know what type of impact we have on others lives.  You can have either a negative or a positive impact without even realizing.  Keeping that in mind, I try to smile at people I make eye contact with and speak kindly to all.  I don't want my cruelty to be the straw that broke someone.  For me, a small gesture is a big deal. I wholeheartedly believe that once a person has gotten deep enough in that pit that would ...

If you're happy and you know it...!  When my oldest son checks up on me he usually didn't ask me how I am doing.  He goes a step beyond that and asks me if I am happy.  He doesn't even understand how that makes my day because it is a question based truly in concern. How are you? It's not an inconsiderate question but it is a generic of obligatory one that begs the same type of response.  Once the person hard answered you really don't have a true sense of their well-being.  If the person is depressed or sad and had decided to harm themself or another, after being asked that question you may not get how lonely or desperate they are because that person has come to terms with their situation and it's fine.  Now, ask that same person if they are happy and you have gone a bit further. Today I was asked if I was happy and my response was that I am happy with many parts of my life and then I had a couple of areas that I have to work harder on.  I have abso...