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Not an island

Recently, in the past two weeks or so my oldest son had a former classmate kill himself.  Then I find out that I've of the young man's friends was supposed to go over and talk with him about his life.  That friend had a last minute situation and decided he would go another time.  That time never arrived, the young man shot himself in the head.  It got me thinking about our connection to others.

I know several people who would rather not get involved or hear too much about others issues.  The only problem with that is that none of us know what type of impact we have on others lives.  You can have either a negative or a positive impact without even realizing.  Keeping that in mind, I try to smile at people I make eye contact with and speak kindly to all.  I don't want my cruelty to be the straw that broke someone.  For me, a small gesture is a big deal.

I wholeheartedly believe that once a person has gotten deep enough in that pit that would allow them to think about suicide, they have to make a different decision to allow someone to help them crawl out.  That being said, each one of us can be a person that offers positivity to those around us so maybe those who need help can see enough kindness to want to continue with life.  Suicide doesn't ever need to be an option and with me compassion and care it can become less of an option.

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