Keep It Sybil

There is an adage that says, "when the going gets tough, the tough gets going".  I know that I am guilty of repeating this saying.  I have said it plenty of times.  What exactly does it mean?  I am still unsure of what it means but I have been putting some thought into it.  I have come up with what I think the meaning of this saying is. We all have been faced with situations in our life that has beat us down. There have been times that we may feel like we just can't see our way out of.  We are not sure what we are going to do to get to the other side.  This is when everything seems to be so tough.  We may even tell people, 'I am having a tough time right now".  This is what the beginning part of the saying is for.  When the going gets tough means that when you are faced with tough times.  The second half is about what you do after. Now, the amount of times that you fall off the horse isn't the...

Yesterday I was speaking with one of my cousins and she got me to thinking.  Well, actually she got me thinking more.  I was sharing with her the fact that I was in a contemplative state and I wasn't sure why.  Then she says to me, this is the birthday blues.  Now that didn't make any sense to me given the fact that I love my birthday.  I absolutely love getting older and being able to leave behind things from the previous year that have proven themselves useless in my life.  So, I say nah that can't be it; she assured me that it is and it doesn't mean that I am depressed about anything just thinking over the past few months of my life.  Okay, okay, that makes complete sense. During our conversation she shares her thoughts with me and I share mine with her(she listens to me and speaks back to me which makes a good conversation).  It was terrific.  She is a single woman and I am in a relationship so of course the conversation turned towards ...

In life there is always a give and take.  As a little child we may not be taught this right away.  Some parents will buy the younger child a present on the older ones birthday so that the younger one doesn't feel bad about not receiving anything.  This is not a practice that  engaged in because life is never going to be so nice to your feelings.  You have to give a little to get a little; in those situations, you have to give up a little peace and quiet so that the child begins to learn the lessons of life that you don't always get what you want but you can be patient and wait for your turn or you can cry and have a tantrum and risk the chance of not getting what you want since all around you are so annoyed.  This being said, the lesson is one that some people still haven't grasped the concept of even as an adult. I know lots of different types of people.  Business people, entrepreneurs, lawyers, doctors all the way down to those who have decided to ...

I have been on the outside looking into the search for a mate with one of my cousins.  I have basically only offered the advice to be careful when meeting new people but be available to get to know a new person.  I can't really offer much in the way of relationships, I have been in a relationship for almost one year but that is after being by myself for almost six years.  Thus getting to know new people is something that I understand completely; I understand how totally scary it is to put yourself out there and open yourself up for possible rejection.  This is not however, what has gotten me perplexed about relationships.  My wonderment is about marriage. I have spent my life surrounded by married people.  My parents have been married for 40 years; I have an uncle and aunt that have been married for 38 years; An aunt and uncle that have been married for over 45 years; Another uncle and aunt that have been married for over 35 years; My pastor and his wife ...

So I was talking to my son a few days ago and he was asking me about one of our cousins.  He was speaking about her like she was a little child and I told him, "boy, that girl is 17 years old she is not a little girl".  He says back to me "I remember her as little...".  That is so funny because he just turned 19 which means he isn't really that much older than her.  That conversation got me to thinking, where does all of the time go?!?!?! I remember on December 30th 1992 while everyone in the house was downstairs watching Oprah I started having what I could only imagine were contractions.  I told my parents and then got dressed and headed to the hospital.  Four hours later, there is a little red turkey-sized baby in my arms.  It seems like the very next day he was sitting up and playing and he was a little person with a personality.  Then comes along April 14th 1995.  This time was much different. No one was with me I was home alone and the...