I once read what the difference is between being a single parent and being a single mom/dad. The difference is, is if the other parent participates and helps parent the child(ren), then you are a single mom/dad. No participation from the other parent means that you are a single parent. Now this made me think, what type of involvement signifies parenting?
Parent is a noun and a verb. You can be a parent without actually parenting your child(ren). Sending a child support check and having not much else to do with the kid is not parenting and not being a good parent. A good parent is involved in every aspect of the child’s life. A person that is parenting and being a good parent knows things about their child that others, unless they live with the child, could not know. For instance I know from my children’s behavior if they are tired or upset; I also know if they want something by the look in their eyes. Every parent should do the best they can and realize their goals for the people they raise their children to be. A child that has grown up to be a good person because of the lessons that the parents have taught is the evidence of a parent that was being a parent and parenting the child.
All children get screwed up in some way by their parents so there is nothing that can be done about that. That’s not to say that the screwing up is intentional but it is inevitable. I have never heard my parent arguing or even raising their voices at each other and that screwed me up because I thought that was normal. So do the best you can and do what is in the best interest of the child and everything else will work itself out.
Parent is a noun and a verb. You can be a parent without actually parenting your child(ren). Sending a child support check and having not much else to do with the kid is not parenting and not being a good parent. A good parent is involved in every aspect of the child’s life. A person that is parenting and being a good parent knows things about their child that others, unless they live with the child, could not know. For instance I know from my children’s behavior if they are tired or upset; I also know if they want something by the look in their eyes. Every parent should do the best they can and realize their goals for the people they raise their children to be. A child that has grown up to be a good person because of the lessons that the parents have taught is the evidence of a parent that was being a parent and parenting the child.
All children get screwed up in some way by their parents so there is nothing that can be done about that. That’s not to say that the screwing up is intentional but it is inevitable. I have never heard my parent arguing or even raising their voices at each other and that screwed me up because I thought that was normal. So do the best you can and do what is in the best interest of the child and everything else will work itself out.
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