After watching, "Let's Talk About Pep", earlier in the week it got me thinking about her situation. She meets a man that seemingly has good manners and is gainfully employed, he is good-looking and he finds her attractive and he likes her personality. They have a lot in common because of the business they are both in and the have some people in common. Well, the fact that he is kind of cool with Treach, Peps ex-husband, seemed to be a bit of a turn-off for her. Peps friends were split on whether dating the friend of an ex should be off-limits.
The statistics are everywhere and it's no surprise that black women are not getting married and a good percentage of black men are in jail, gay or otherwise engaged in a relationship already. Given this information when is a friend/associate too close to home?
The adage, birds of a feather flock together, has become a saying based on the fact that it has some validity. This means that if you were involved in with a person there are certain attributes that will be shared amongst that person and their friends. So what attracted you to them could possibly attract you to one of their friends also. Once your relationship has ended and you are back on the hunt for someone that you are compatible with, should that mean that associate/friend of your ex is someone to stay away from?
After carefully pondering this question I realized that this situation called for a couple things to happen. The friends should have a conversation amongst themselves and figure out if there will be a strain on their friendship if things were to go further between you and that other person. Then the two of you have to have a conversation about whether or not the relationship between you two is worth getting in to if there is a possibility of their friendship being ruined. Once those things have been ironed out and the sparks are still flying between the exes friend and you, I think that you should go for it! Do what makes you happy.
The statistics are everywhere and it's no surprise that black women are not getting married and a good percentage of black men are in jail, gay or otherwise engaged in a relationship already. Given this information when is a friend/associate too close to home?
The adage, birds of a feather flock together, has become a saying based on the fact that it has some validity. This means that if you were involved in with a person there are certain attributes that will be shared amongst that person and their friends. So what attracted you to them could possibly attract you to one of their friends also. Once your relationship has ended and you are back on the hunt for someone that you are compatible with, should that mean that associate/friend of your ex is someone to stay away from?
After carefully pondering this question I realized that this situation called for a couple things to happen. The friends should have a conversation amongst themselves and figure out if there will be a strain on their friendship if things were to go further between you and that other person. Then the two of you have to have a conversation about whether or not the relationship between you two is worth getting in to if there is a possibility of their friendship being ruined. Once those things have been ironed out and the sparks are still flying between the exes friend and you, I think that you should go for it! Do what makes you happy.
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