Self-esteem is a strange thing. It is supposed to be all about the way you feel about yourself. Well the problem is that a lot of the time the way that we feel about our selves is based on other people's reaction to you.
I have found that in general, that a person who has received a certain amount of praise and encouragement, their self-esteem is pretty good. Now this begs the question, did the way that that person felt about themselves lead to the praise and encouragement, or did the praise and encouragement lead to higher self-esteem? I am not really sure how to find the answer to a question like that because what is the gauge of high self-esteem? The only question that can be asked and answered in this situation is, how does someone gain or raise their self-esteem? The answer will vary from person-to-person but the fundamentals will remain the same.
The first thing that needs to be done is the person with low self-esteem has to silence all of the outer voices they are hearing. Once they are no longer listening to the criticisms from other people their inner voice that is repeating others criticism will then be silenced. After that has been taken care of that person needs to figure out inside them self what they are good at in life. Then they must set small goals first and as those are reached, larger goals. Now they have begun to set a standard about themselves for themselves. With each goal, large or small, that has been reached, the level of self-esteem will rise.
This concept took me so long to catch on to but now that I have realized what it takes I work on my self-esteem on a daily basis. This is good for maintenance and building!
I have found that in general, that a person who has received a certain amount of praise and encouragement, their self-esteem is pretty good. Now this begs the question, did the way that that person felt about themselves lead to the praise and encouragement, or did the praise and encouragement lead to higher self-esteem? I am not really sure how to find the answer to a question like that because what is the gauge of high self-esteem? The only question that can be asked and answered in this situation is, how does someone gain or raise their self-esteem? The answer will vary from person-to-person but the fundamentals will remain the same.
The first thing that needs to be done is the person with low self-esteem has to silence all of the outer voices they are hearing. Once they are no longer listening to the criticisms from other people their inner voice that is repeating others criticism will then be silenced. After that has been taken care of that person needs to figure out inside them self what they are good at in life. Then they must set small goals first and as those are reached, larger goals. Now they have begun to set a standard about themselves for themselves. With each goal, large or small, that has been reached, the level of self-esteem will rise.
This concept took me so long to catch on to but now that I have realized what it takes I work on my self-esteem on a daily basis. This is good for maintenance and building!
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