I always say that there has to be a physical attraction first and foremost. That was all I thought was important when I was younger. As I got older I realized that other factors played a part in being truly attracted to someone. Looks really aren't everything.
Ten years ago, if asked, I had a definite type. The type of man that I wanted to be with had a short list. I wanted him to be a dark-skinned black man. He needed to be at least 6 feet tall. Not too skinny please, if he looked like he could play any position on a major league football team then that was a plus. He could not be more than 5 years older or younger than I was. That was basically the list.
In the last 5 or 6 years, that list has changed dramatically. Now my type of man has a longer list. I want him to be a black man. He also needs to be taller than I am. I still don't want him to be too skinny, I need a little meat on the bone. A good sense of humor is a must. Plus he must be kind, giving and sharing. He needs to know how to be a true man and a God-fearing man. I want him to be funny and have an easy, laid-back type of personality with everything except business. He has to know that love is an action word. But above all else he must know that I will treat him the way he treats me so the limit begins and ends with him.
There has to be physical attraction but now there is a sliding scale. That means that a little give and take depending upon whether or not the person has more of one thing than you find necessary. For example, the man could be a bit skinnier if his personality is phenomenal for me. So attraction is very subjective and it changes as I change.
Ten years ago, if asked, I had a definite type. The type of man that I wanted to be with had a short list. I wanted him to be a dark-skinned black man. He needed to be at least 6 feet tall. Not too skinny please, if he looked like he could play any position on a major league football team then that was a plus. He could not be more than 5 years older or younger than I was. That was basically the list.
In the last 5 or 6 years, that list has changed dramatically. Now my type of man has a longer list. I want him to be a black man. He also needs to be taller than I am. I still don't want him to be too skinny, I need a little meat on the bone. A good sense of humor is a must. Plus he must be kind, giving and sharing. He needs to know how to be a true man and a God-fearing man. I want him to be funny and have an easy, laid-back type of personality with everything except business. He has to know that love is an action word. But above all else he must know that I will treat him the way he treats me so the limit begins and ends with him.
There has to be physical attraction but now there is a sliding scale. That means that a little give and take depending upon whether or not the person has more of one thing than you find necessary. For example, the man could be a bit skinnier if his personality is phenomenal for me. So attraction is very subjective and it changes as I change.
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