This afternoon I had a good conversation. What came of this conversation was me wondering about a couple of things. First of all I am the type of person that prefers to have as much information as possible. I can't stand being on a need to know basis about anything.
If a little bit of pain comes from the information given to me, I will be better in the long run regardless of the pain. It's easier to get beyond something when their is a lot of information. This is why families of people who commit suicide have such a hard time getting over that death. The reason is because they have no reason why this happened and questions that continue to appear since there is no answer.
Next, I like to believe that regardless of who is or isn't watching my behavior is consistent. I don't showboat or try to act like someone that I am not. I generally don't have a problem making the hard choices and letting someone know what is on my mind. I could sometimes, be perceived as being harsh, but that's just because as a society, we don't really listen or search for the truth anymore. I generally, do not have a problem with telling the truth about a situation. If the truth makes me look bad then so be it. I am not perfect and I don't have a reason to pretend that I am. I strive to do the best to my ability all the time so if I fall short then I am in good company--everyone falls short.
All of this led me to really understand that just because someone has done something hurtful or bad to you doesn't mean that you should turn around and do the same to them. If you do the same thing, regardless of why you do it, it puts you on the same level as that person. So all those names you called the other person can now be used on you. Plus you are saying with your actions that it is no longer a bad thing but an acceptable action to you. Just remember that your actions do speak louder than words so make sure they line up!
If a little bit of pain comes from the information given to me, I will be better in the long run regardless of the pain. It's easier to get beyond something when their is a lot of information. This is why families of people who commit suicide have such a hard time getting over that death. The reason is because they have no reason why this happened and questions that continue to appear since there is no answer.
Next, I like to believe that regardless of who is or isn't watching my behavior is consistent. I don't showboat or try to act like someone that I am not. I generally don't have a problem making the hard choices and letting someone know what is on my mind. I could sometimes, be perceived as being harsh, but that's just because as a society, we don't really listen or search for the truth anymore. I generally, do not have a problem with telling the truth about a situation. If the truth makes me look bad then so be it. I am not perfect and I don't have a reason to pretend that I am. I strive to do the best to my ability all the time so if I fall short then I am in good company--everyone falls short.
All of this led me to really understand that just because someone has done something hurtful or bad to you doesn't mean that you should turn around and do the same to them. If you do the same thing, regardless of why you do it, it puts you on the same level as that person. So all those names you called the other person can now be used on you. Plus you are saying with your actions that it is no longer a bad thing but an acceptable action to you. Just remember that your actions do speak louder than words so make sure they line up!
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