When is enough enough? This is an interesting question that has a different answer depending upon who you are asking the question to. There is also a chance that the answer will change with the persons stage in life. I know for myself this answer has been different multiple times in my life.
I can remember the fact that as a younger girl, maybe as a teenager, I would say, adamantly, if my boyfriend cheats on me that is the end of that relationship. Then I was put to the test. When I was about 16 I had a boyfriend in high school. We went to two different high schools so he could basically do what he wanted to do at his school. Well, it turns out he was. One evening I receive a call from the friend of one of my cousins and she gives me some information. She was a basketball player at the school he attended and while she was watching the boys game a young lady happened to pick her to ask about my boyfriend. She asked if my cousins friend knew him and if she saw him at the game. When my cousin's friend asked who she was, she said she was my boyfriends girlfriend. Well, that was when I received the call. I spoke with the other girl and we set up a little sting on him. She was about 5 minutes from his house so she went over there and called me once she got there. Well, that relationship was over then, at least on my side. He tried to convince me to stay with him, the whole nine yards. I said no and he very soon thereafter moved with her to Texas. This no I will not stay with someone who cheats on me, attitude stayed with me until, it happened again.
This time I didn't find out about it until about a year or so after it happened. The next time I receive a letter in the mail from the other woman. She decided that she wanted my man and that she needed to get rid of me. Well, the difference with this situation and the previous one is that this wasn't a relationship it was a one time thing. I was in a battle with myself over this one. We were together about a year when he cheated on me and once I found out for closer to three years. I decided that I felt like it was a one time thing and he was in love with me and vice versa; we would get married and spend our lives together. We were together for maybe 2, 2 1/2 more years but eventually we broke up. At this point I am in my late 20's. This led to another change of mind over this type of situation.
Now in my mid 30's I have a different point of view. I don't think I will share it right now but I am sure that as I evolve into the person I am supposed to be I will more likely than not have another change.
I can remember the fact that as a younger girl, maybe as a teenager, I would say, adamantly, if my boyfriend cheats on me that is the end of that relationship. Then I was put to the test. When I was about 16 I had a boyfriend in high school. We went to two different high schools so he could basically do what he wanted to do at his school. Well, it turns out he was. One evening I receive a call from the friend of one of my cousins and she gives me some information. She was a basketball player at the school he attended and while she was watching the boys game a young lady happened to pick her to ask about my boyfriend. She asked if my cousins friend knew him and if she saw him at the game. When my cousin's friend asked who she was, she said she was my boyfriends girlfriend. Well, that was when I received the call. I spoke with the other girl and we set up a little sting on him. She was about 5 minutes from his house so she went over there and called me once she got there. Well, that relationship was over then, at least on my side. He tried to convince me to stay with him, the whole nine yards. I said no and he very soon thereafter moved with her to Texas. This no I will not stay with someone who cheats on me, attitude stayed with me until, it happened again.
This time I didn't find out about it until about a year or so after it happened. The next time I receive a letter in the mail from the other woman. She decided that she wanted my man and that she needed to get rid of me. Well, the difference with this situation and the previous one is that this wasn't a relationship it was a one time thing. I was in a battle with myself over this one. We were together about a year when he cheated on me and once I found out for closer to three years. I decided that I felt like it was a one time thing and he was in love with me and vice versa; we would get married and spend our lives together. We were together for maybe 2, 2 1/2 more years but eventually we broke up. At this point I am in my late 20's. This led to another change of mind over this type of situation.
Now in my mid 30's I have a different point of view. I don't think I will share it right now but I am sure that as I evolve into the person I am supposed to be I will more likely than not have another change.
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