Valentines day is fast approaching and as of right now, I don't have a valentine of my own. I am, however, going to a little Valentines mixer on February 12th. Well, when questioned about what my age requirements are for men I would be willing to date I responded with between the ages of 28 and 43. A couple of the married women were like 28 is too young for a soon-to-be 35 year old.
I tried to explain to them that there is a sliding scale. There are some life experiences that serve as a helper to raise your life age above your biological age.
These are a few:
1. Have his own place--2 years.
2. Own his own car(that is not something you see in a down south rap video)--1 year.
3. Currently employed--1/2 year for every year.
4. Currently in their chosen career--2 years.
5. Chivalrous--2 years.
6. Nice dresser(no sagging pants and gigantic tees)--1 year.
7. Pays bills on time--1/2 year.
8. Not a club rat--1 year.
9. Not a mall rat--1 year.
As I said, these are few of the things that could possibly raise a man's age. Now you also have to keep in mind that there could a 40 year old man, biologically that because of life experience, is only about 12 years old and that is just as unacceptable as me actually dating a 12 year old. I have a hard and fast rule that if the man could be someone that hangs out with my son and his friends then he is certainly a no-go. They must also possess characteristics that would be a good role model for both of my children.
I can't justify being with a man that does not have a job, a high school education, a set of manners, know how to dress. I wouldn't want that for my children so the best way to let them know that I don't find it to be acceptable, is that I don't allow that into my life.
I am not sure how this mixer will go but I will take it like I do everything else in my life, I will be the best me I can be. Oh and per the advice of my 16 year old cousin, I will smile and wave at a guy that I think is attractive.
I tried to explain to them that there is a sliding scale. There are some life experiences that serve as a helper to raise your life age above your biological age.
These are a few:
1. Have his own place--2 years.
2. Own his own car(that is not something you see in a down south rap video)--1 year.
3. Currently employed--1/2 year for every year.
4. Currently in their chosen career--2 years.
5. Chivalrous--2 years.
6. Nice dresser(no sagging pants and gigantic tees)--1 year.
7. Pays bills on time--1/2 year.
8. Not a club rat--1 year.
9. Not a mall rat--1 year.
As I said, these are few of the things that could possibly raise a man's age. Now you also have to keep in mind that there could a 40 year old man, biologically that because of life experience, is only about 12 years old and that is just as unacceptable as me actually dating a 12 year old. I have a hard and fast rule that if the man could be someone that hangs out with my son and his friends then he is certainly a no-go. They must also possess characteristics that would be a good role model for both of my children.
I can't justify being with a man that does not have a job, a high school education, a set of manners, know how to dress. I wouldn't want that for my children so the best way to let them know that I don't find it to be acceptable, is that I don't allow that into my life.
I am not sure how this mixer will go but I will take it like I do everything else in my life, I will be the best me I can be. Oh and per the advice of my 16 year old cousin, I will smile and wave at a guy that I think is attractive.
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