Valentines Day is upon us. I don't have a man so I will be facing this holiday without that part of the equation. That is okay though because the most important part is always here--me. Because this holiday is about love that is what I will continue to do for myself.
I have come to a realization that seems to be a prevalent issue. For the first few years of life, maybe from about birth to 4 or 5 years of age, a person really loves themselves. A child this age doesn't really know anything except themselves and their parents. The parents take almost total care of the child. The child doesn't have to worry about getting what they want. Of course this is a broad generalization. Because of this they are equally in love with their parents and themselves. This concept changes pretty quickly.
The next stage of life from about 5 to 12 or 13, the stage where the child is trying to force others to realize who they are. They want to be recognized as a person separate from their parents and siblings. This is a time of extreme self-love. During this time the child isn't really into boys or girls, they just want to be who they are becoming. This stage ends pretty quickly also.
Because most people continue to grow and form an adult mind until they are about 23 the following stage is one of the longest prior to full adulthood. From about 13 to 24 or 25 the person is falling in and out of love. A lot of times they are totally consumed with their boyfriends or girlfriends. They are overly concerned about what they can do to themselves that will make others fall in love with them. They are very flexible with their image. A lot of people allow their image to be formed by their mate. There can also be arrested development if the person allows this to be where they stop trying to become who they are. If they realize they still have a road to self exploration they will continue to the next step.
From 25 to about 55 or 60 there has been an awareness of ones self. The love that a person feels for themselves is evident in the way they carry themselves. Now they are more comfortable in their skin. This is the stage I am in. I really love myself now. I think this is the first Valentines day that I am really good with being my own Valentine. The reason is because I am really good with being who I am whether I am with someone else or myself.
I love my Valentine for this year and we will be together forever!
I have come to a realization that seems to be a prevalent issue. For the first few years of life, maybe from about birth to 4 or 5 years of age, a person really loves themselves. A child this age doesn't really know anything except themselves and their parents. The parents take almost total care of the child. The child doesn't have to worry about getting what they want. Of course this is a broad generalization. Because of this they are equally in love with their parents and themselves. This concept changes pretty quickly.
The next stage of life from about 5 to 12 or 13, the stage where the child is trying to force others to realize who they are. They want to be recognized as a person separate from their parents and siblings. This is a time of extreme self-love. During this time the child isn't really into boys or girls, they just want to be who they are becoming. This stage ends pretty quickly also.
Because most people continue to grow and form an adult mind until they are about 23 the following stage is one of the longest prior to full adulthood. From about 13 to 24 or 25 the person is falling in and out of love. A lot of times they are totally consumed with their boyfriends or girlfriends. They are overly concerned about what they can do to themselves that will make others fall in love with them. They are very flexible with their image. A lot of people allow their image to be formed by their mate. There can also be arrested development if the person allows this to be where they stop trying to become who they are. If they realize they still have a road to self exploration they will continue to the next step.
From 25 to about 55 or 60 there has been an awareness of ones self. The love that a person feels for themselves is evident in the way they carry themselves. Now they are more comfortable in their skin. This is the stage I am in. I really love myself now. I think this is the first Valentines day that I am really good with being my own Valentine. The reason is because I am really good with being who I am whether I am with someone else or myself.
I love my Valentine for this year and we will be together forever!
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