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Realizing the realism

Now that I am totally over my birthday I have realized a few things about life. The main and most important thing to me is that I have to live for where I currently am. It's just like I believe in meeting a person where they are I never extended that thought to myself. I have been way hard on myself. Well, it's time to get beyond that.

Why have I been putting things off because I am not where I think I should be. I am a single woman and the only thing I am really not allowed to do is to go to a couple's activity. Why should I stay at home instead of traveling on my own? There is no problem with going an experiencing new things just because I am doing it on my own. I am not an island so that means that where ever I go there will be other people there. Other people I can speak with and maybe get to know well enough that they and I will become friends.

Being single is not a sentence to being lonely yet it may mean that there are times that you have to do things alone. I also don't have issues with hanging out with couples. It makes me happy when I am able to do that because it gives me hope for my future. So I have to accept the place I am in my life and meet myself where I am. I must enjoy me now and the me that could be because could is not a guarantee. I am going to participate in the world regardless of being single or married or coupled up.

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