A question was posed to me this evening that I hadn't though about in a while. The truth of the matter is, is that I hadn't thought about it in years because I constantly thought about it for over a year.
One of my little cousins asked me about breaking up with a longtime boyfriend. She asked because she knows that I was madly in love with a man for almost 5 years and then it ended, basically one night in Las Vegas. For the better part of two years I constantly wondered what I did wrong. I thought I don't think I will ever feel like this about a person again. I will never meet another guy that is so compatible with me. All of these thoughts were self defeating and they are what helped me to stay in the place of self-doubt. That's not a good place to be.
Well, long story short, he and I are friends now after almost 5 years and I couldn't feel better about myself, inside and out. So, the advice I gave to her was to empower herself. I told her she needs to make up her mind and stick by the fact that she knows she has made the best decision for herself. Yes it is hard and sometimes the lonely feeling takes over and you want to get back with the other person but all you have to do is dig deep inside of yourself and be strong. The way you feel about yourself once you have made a good decision and stuck by it is priceless.
One of my little cousins asked me about breaking up with a longtime boyfriend. She asked because she knows that I was madly in love with a man for almost 5 years and then it ended, basically one night in Las Vegas. For the better part of two years I constantly wondered what I did wrong. I thought I don't think I will ever feel like this about a person again. I will never meet another guy that is so compatible with me. All of these thoughts were self defeating and they are what helped me to stay in the place of self-doubt. That's not a good place to be.
Well, long story short, he and I are friends now after almost 5 years and I couldn't feel better about myself, inside and out. So, the advice I gave to her was to empower herself. I told her she needs to make up her mind and stick by the fact that she knows she has made the best decision for herself. Yes it is hard and sometimes the lonely feeling takes over and you want to get back with the other person but all you have to do is dig deep inside of yourself and be strong. The way you feel about yourself once you have made a good decision and stuck by it is priceless.
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