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Guess who's coming to dinner?

So I was poised the question, "when do you introduce your family to your boyfriend/girlfriend"?  Immediately I thought wow that is a loaded question.  Relationships have ended because of the answers to this question.  Of course I have an answer though.

There used to be a time,a long long time ago before everyone began living there lives through social media, where you only introduced those that were significant in your life.  You are with this person that you are moving in the direction of making a lifetime commitment with.  They would be the only person that met the family because eventually, they would become a part of that family. Well, as I already said, that was a long time ago. 

Now fast forward to modern times.  First, these are the days were being Facebook official is some people's goal.  The mind state is that if the person is telling Facebook they are telling the world.  Then the family can learn of the "relationship"on the timeline with the status change.  The problem with that method is it shows a lack of respect to your partner and to your family.  The reason being everybody is friends with people they don't really know and they wouldn't want in their personal business.

So on to the answer for this loaded question.  I truly believe that meeting the family it's important for the partner because it is reassurance that you are only with them because most people would not introduce a multiple amount of women/men to the family.  For me the right time is when the time is right. 

I know that answer is circular but it is true.  When you feel the relationship is in the position where you are stable in the knowledge that out is real and it's headed down a road to commitment of some sort.  Now if you don't feel that you shouldn't involve others.  You must ask yourself the hard questions, like do you see a future with this person.  If you feel safe, secure, loved, cared for and the other person feels that from you also, then I say, there's no time like the present to make the introductions.

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  1. AnonymousJanuary 9, 2014 at 7:02 PM

    I agree when the right time presents itself then the introductions can begin. Meeting the parent(s) can be a difficult situation however, all parties must have an open mind.

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