Once you have gotten to a particular age, you are sure to have lived and experienced lots of things, in your past. Sure, the things you went through are what has gotten you to where you currently are. I would not have been the person I am today if I didn't go through the good and bad things of my past. Then what do you let go of the past in order to live for now and have the future that you desire?
I have children from a relationship that was, for lack of a better description, a colossal fail. That is not to say that having my children was a bad thing it is just to say that up to the point of having them, my decisions, good or bad gave me new knowledge and two beautiful little babies. In this case, I didn't want to leave the kids in the past but the treatment received in the relationship and the way that I felt about myself that allowed me to accept this treatment is what is left behind. The lesson was learned and that was great but I couldn't bring those issues to the next relationship and feel that I have moved on. If I had to check an exes voicemail because he had women on the side, it's not fair to do that to my current man just because I don't want him to turn out to be like someone from my past. That is putting the expectations of the past on to the current, it isn't taking the lesson learned and moving forward. This is not fair for the person you are currently with, it is not fair.
In my past relationships, I have received all sorts of things from, purses to shoes to jewelry. If someone came now to ask me about any of those things I would cease to own them. I don't have any pictures or documentation from that time of my life either. Bringing those things into my current relationship is saying that I have not let go every aspect of the past. There is absolutely no reason that I would continue to hold on to these things except for holding on to something from the person that gave it to me. Things are representations of certain memories. We all have a shirt or pants or song or tape that represents a memory and we don't want to let it go.
I am all for sentimentality and holding on to some things from the past. I still have a blanket that my grandmother made me. I have jackets from when I was six, seven years old. I still have pictures from great times with my family and friends. None of the things I have brought from the past are hindrances to my current life. None of these things are held on to so that a memory can be kept with a person from my past that I wouldn't want to still have in my current life. For me this is the gage of whether I should let a thing go or keep it.
If a person is in the past and no longer in your life then there must be a reason for it. That means you should continue to leave them and everything they represent in the past. Don't let your past jeopardize your future and remember that the person you have now is a gift that why it is called the present.
I have children from a relationship that was, for lack of a better description, a colossal fail. That is not to say that having my children was a bad thing it is just to say that up to the point of having them, my decisions, good or bad gave me new knowledge and two beautiful little babies. In this case, I didn't want to leave the kids in the past but the treatment received in the relationship and the way that I felt about myself that allowed me to accept this treatment is what is left behind. The lesson was learned and that was great but I couldn't bring those issues to the next relationship and feel that I have moved on. If I had to check an exes voicemail because he had women on the side, it's not fair to do that to my current man just because I don't want him to turn out to be like someone from my past. That is putting the expectations of the past on to the current, it isn't taking the lesson learned and moving forward. This is not fair for the person you are currently with, it is not fair.
In my past relationships, I have received all sorts of things from, purses to shoes to jewelry. If someone came now to ask me about any of those things I would cease to own them. I don't have any pictures or documentation from that time of my life either. Bringing those things into my current relationship is saying that I have not let go every aspect of the past. There is absolutely no reason that I would continue to hold on to these things except for holding on to something from the person that gave it to me. Things are representations of certain memories. We all have a shirt or pants or song or tape that represents a memory and we don't want to let it go.
I am all for sentimentality and holding on to some things from the past. I still have a blanket that my grandmother made me. I have jackets from when I was six, seven years old. I still have pictures from great times with my family and friends. None of the things I have brought from the past are hindrances to my current life. None of these things are held on to so that a memory can be kept with a person from my past that I wouldn't want to still have in my current life. For me this is the gage of whether I should let a thing go or keep it.
If a person is in the past and no longer in your life then there must be a reason for it. That means you should continue to leave them and everything they represent in the past. Don't let your past jeopardize your future and remember that the person you have now is a gift that why it is called the present.
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