Yesterday I had a conversation with one of my cousins that quite frankly concerned me a bit. I would like to say that on a general basis I am open to hear what other people have to say. I am pretty much an open book. Now that's not to say that there aren't things that I keep to myself. The things I keep to myself are the things that I don't feel like I need any feedback on from anyone.
So this leads me to my conversation with my beautiful, wonderful, kind, sweet, nice, talented, smart cousin! She really is all of those things but her behavior has led me to believe that she has no idea that she is any of these things. In fact she is currently behaving as though she is none of those things. It hurts me to know that a person as charming as her has no idea what she has to offer to another person. She has lost herself in an idea that may not be realistic for who she is. My reality is not anyone else's reality and I don't live my life as such.
I have another cousin, much younger than the first I spoke of, and I fear that she too is heading down the same road that our other cousin is seemingly on already. The road that they are on is that they are willing to be involved with people that don't really make them feel happy or good about the people they are. I have been in this same position in my life. Because I have been there I know what it looks like and I don't like to see other people having to go through it.
I know for me the reason I allowed myself to accept people and situations that were not good for me is because I didn't have a good sense of self. My self-esteem was low and I felt that I should hop on with any guy that paid me attention. That was a mistake and it's one that I refuse to have in my life anymore. I know it seems that your ego is being boosted because there is someone that is spending some kind of time with you. But when the situation is not right it actually serves as a way to lower your self esteem because then when it ends, you are wrapped up in the misery and start to feel worse about yourself.
So if you steer clear of these types of people and situations from the beginning then you don't feel bad once a situation is ended. You take it as a lesson learned and move on from there.
So this leads me to my conversation with my beautiful, wonderful, kind, sweet, nice, talented, smart cousin! She really is all of those things but her behavior has led me to believe that she has no idea that she is any of these things. In fact she is currently behaving as though she is none of those things. It hurts me to know that a person as charming as her has no idea what she has to offer to another person. She has lost herself in an idea that may not be realistic for who she is. My reality is not anyone else's reality and I don't live my life as such.
I have another cousin, much younger than the first I spoke of, and I fear that she too is heading down the same road that our other cousin is seemingly on already. The road that they are on is that they are willing to be involved with people that don't really make them feel happy or good about the people they are. I have been in this same position in my life. Because I have been there I know what it looks like and I don't like to see other people having to go through it.
I know for me the reason I allowed myself to accept people and situations that were not good for me is because I didn't have a good sense of self. My self-esteem was low and I felt that I should hop on with any guy that paid me attention. That was a mistake and it's one that I refuse to have in my life anymore. I know it seems that your ego is being boosted because there is someone that is spending some kind of time with you. But when the situation is not right it actually serves as a way to lower your self esteem because then when it ends, you are wrapped up in the misery and start to feel worse about yourself.
So if you steer clear of these types of people and situations from the beginning then you don't feel bad once a situation is ended. You take it as a lesson learned and move on from there.
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