I go to a barber shop to have my eyebrows arched and my kitchen cleaned up a bit. While in the barber shop there could very well be an interesting conversation going on that gives me insight into the male mind. It is so different from the female point of view for sure. The topic of conversation my last visit to the barber shop was about a good or bad girlfriend.
The model, according to the guys in the shop, is Melanie on the television show, The Game. They were so adamant about the fact that they felt that she was a very bad girlfriend. I said geesh, she gave up going to one of the most prestigious medical schools in the country. She also caused almost irreversible damage to her relationship with her parents. She also put the needs of his team first by joining the charity leg of the organization even though she initially did not want to do it. According to these gentlemen, she was a bad girlfriend.
I asked what are you basing this upon and they said because she slept with her EX-boyfriends college rival a few days after they broke up. They said that she was wrong for doing that because what type of woman does that? They said she is a slut because of that incident and because she slept with the doctor and almost slept with the ex in the same night. Okay granted, that could have been skanky had she gone through with it but she didn't and it wasn't.
Another one of the guys said that she was a bad girlfriend because she was selfish. Selfish, she gave up a lot of her life and personal identity to be there for her man. Yes, they said, selfish. She could have sacrificed a lot more than she did, like devoting her whole life to the boyfriend by giving up medical school altogether. She was also selfish by not marrying him when he asked at first because that was the time for her to devote completely to her man. She was a bad girlfriend and a slut?
This conversation took me by complete surprise. I also came to the realization that I have no idea what it is that makes a good or a bad girlfriend. This is a crazy thing since I would like to be a good girlfriend then a good wife to a very deserving gentleman. I know that will happen but that conversation makes me want to keep my past in the past so there will not be any harsh judgement placed upon me.
The model, according to the guys in the shop, is Melanie on the television show, The Game. They were so adamant about the fact that they felt that she was a very bad girlfriend. I said geesh, she gave up going to one of the most prestigious medical schools in the country. She also caused almost irreversible damage to her relationship with her parents. She also put the needs of his team first by joining the charity leg of the organization even though she initially did not want to do it. According to these gentlemen, she was a bad girlfriend.
I asked what are you basing this upon and they said because she slept with her EX-boyfriends college rival a few days after they broke up. They said that she was wrong for doing that because what type of woman does that? They said she is a slut because of that incident and because she slept with the doctor and almost slept with the ex in the same night. Okay granted, that could have been skanky had she gone through with it but she didn't and it wasn't.
Another one of the guys said that she was a bad girlfriend because she was selfish. Selfish, she gave up a lot of her life and personal identity to be there for her man. Yes, they said, selfish. She could have sacrificed a lot more than she did, like devoting her whole life to the boyfriend by giving up medical school altogether. She was also selfish by not marrying him when he asked at first because that was the time for her to devote completely to her man. She was a bad girlfriend and a slut?
This conversation took me by complete surprise. I also came to the realization that I have no idea what it is that makes a good or a bad girlfriend. This is a crazy thing since I would like to be a good girlfriend then a good wife to a very deserving gentleman. I know that will happen but that conversation makes me want to keep my past in the past so there will not be any harsh judgement placed upon me.
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