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Things I have learned as I have been on my healing journey.  This is just a partial list of course because it changes all the time.  There are new things added and then some things may fall off. So here it goes.

1.  Starting is hard, but it is actually not the hardest part of being on this journey.
2.  Starting is extremely hard to do.
3.  Taking hard steps is the new normal.
4.  Making hard decisions is the new normal.
5.  Living in the hurt for a while is therapeutic.
6.  Living in the pain allows you to see the full spectrum of your situation.
7.  Crawling out of the hurt is necessary.
8.  Sometimes you will feel like you are crawling on broken shards of glass.
9.  The physical scars heal much quicker than the internal ones.
10. You must establish a safe word, phrase or kill word for yourself to stop with the self-blame.
11. There will come a time where you have to deep dive inside of your feelings and emotions.
12. You will be more scared than you have ever been.
13. Being brave is continuing the journey in spite of the fear.
14. You must focus on what you have.
15. You cannot focus on what was loss.
16. You begin to realize that you didn't really lose anything important except yourself.
17. You realize that you can get back material things.
18. You realize that the person for you will not set out to hurt you.
19. Love yourself first.
20. Do the small things that make you smile.
21. The small things become the most important things.
22. You have to open yourself to new things and people.
23. You may have to pivot a few times
24. You start to see how you can be a whole person again.
25. Being abused or used does not make you a worthless person.
26. Your worth is not dependent on another person seeing it.
27. You determine your own path.
28. You determine your own worth.
29. You can change your mind anytime you want.
30. You don't owe anyone an explanation.
31. Standing up for yourself does not make you aggressive.
32. Being aggressive about yourself is fine.
33. Speak what you want.
34. You will stumble and that is human.
35. Somedays you will feel like you did on the first day of your journey.

The biggest thing I have learned thus far...there are no rules and no manual because each person has their own personal journey.  You must be easy with yourself. Accept all forms of genuine love. Love will heal you quicker than anything.
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