Bia Bia

So, anyone that knows me knows that I do not curse.  I don't care if others do it around me it is just not my thing.  I rarely even use slang.  Oh, there are definitely situations that I wish I cursed but I know I can't sound cool cursing.  And yes, when I am just talking normally, I do sound cool. Hey, I am cool. There are certainly people I would love to just curse them out and read them to filth. Because I am good with words, I can read anyone to filth, or I used to.  I haven't done it in a while.  Actually, I may inadvertently read a few people to filth with this post.

I am actually writing this post to talk about jealousy and envy, The tools of the weak-minded. I know there are people that think it is a cool thing to make their significant other jealous.  Well, that is far from cool because it just means that one partner is manipulating situations in order to elicit a negative reaction, masquerading as care, from their partner.  Maybe those types of people don't look at it like that but that is exactly what it is.  I don't know what would possess someone to say flirt with a stranger so their significant other can storm over and either handle their partner roughly by grabbing them and dragging them away, or by roughing up the unsuspecting person that is being flirted with.  Let's be clear, neither is an alright option.

I have never been a jealous or envious person.  I also don't play the game of trying to make someone jealous. Doing that is showing how little communication matters in the relationship or the disregard given to that relationship.  I prefer to have trust, love and care when in a relationship. Unfortunately, I was in a relationship wrought with jealousy and envy.  Before I get into that, I am going to go back to my first thought about cursing.  Let me preface this by saying that I love this curse word but not the person that brought it to popularity.  My cousin, that is also not a curser, would always say that one day, we are just going to surprise everyone and start cursing jus so we could use this one.  Well, technically, it's two curse words put together so geniusly. So, here goes nothing.

If you are offended by cursing, please, go ahead and stop reading.  The curse of my dreams is, bitch- assedness. Yes, it was made popular by Puffy in Making the band days and though I always said Puffy, not that great of person, the curse just encompasses everything that I would love to express to idiots, dummies and plain old rubes.  Oh man, I have had literal dreams of just calling someone this to really express the distaste they have caused me to have for them.  I know it is unkind but when I know someone that fits this curse, I couldn't care less how unkind it is. Okay, back to the story of being in a relationship with somone that I would have loved to call this.

He was so jealous of the relationship that I have with my family.  Of course, I am not a therapist and, I do not profess to be but I am a student of human nature. First, having jealous for something that you have been welcomed into with open arms, is bitch-assedness. Next, I think I already made it clear that jealousy is for the weak minded, so there is that. There would be attempts made to try and make me jealous of them, but I am not weak minded, so I didn't fall into that trap. I am genuinely happy when others accomplish their goals or when they purchase something from their wish list.  If I were to see my boyfriend flirting with another woman, I would assume they are trying to manipulate her, for some unknown reason, into doing something for him like jumping him to the front of the line at the bar.  Now, if he was kissing her, that would be rage, not jealousy. My mind doesn't even operate that way.

Just on a sidenote, my next boyfriend, whom I may already have picked out, I am single, will have nothing to be concerned about with me but aside from that, I would not even make the attempt at making him jealous and he would not do that to me either because he is an excellent communicator, allegedly. I would rather he use that energy towards doing things that make me feel good. So, if I have to give a lesson out of this post, jealousy and envy are used by the weak minded and if you curse it's definitely their bitch assedness.