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Hypocrite

The advice given to young women is to watch how a guy treats his mother. And I do think that this is good advice. But why has there been advice only given to young ladies, what about advice for men? Men need guidance just as much as a woman does in the game of love. I do have advice for the men.

I have a son of my own so there are certain things that I will not accept from him. To the men out there. If there is a man interested in me then he should pay attention to my son. Not in a creepy way but in the way that he behaves because that shows what types of things I am okay with and what I am not okay with.

My son knows that he is to open the door for his mother when the two of us are out together. That means this too, is a requirement for any man that would like to be included into my life. My son also knows that raising his voice at me is inappropriate. The reason it's inappropriate is not just because he is my son but because it is a respect thing. Long hair, as far as I am concerned, is not for a man that expects to have a successful career in his life; therefore if there is a man with long hair(whatever the form, braids, dreads, perms) the chances are that he doesn't have a solid career goal. And no your music career will jump off one day is not a solid plan. My son is a stylish child and he is allowed to choose his own clothes. What he is not allowed to do is wear clothes that do not fit, that means over sized or undersized. He wears a belt and knows how to match his shoes to his clothes and put them together in a nice way. That being said, why would I bring a "man" around my children that does all of these things.

Why would I accept these traits in a man and I wouldn't accept these things in my son. I would not subject my children to standards that are not equal to or greater than the standards I have set forth for them. I try to live a right life and being a hypocrite does not interest me.

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