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How many of us have them?

You have to be one in order to have one. That's what my father said. But my question is, what happens if you are being one and the person or people you are being one towards are not being one back to you?

If you haven't figured it out yet I am talking about a friend. Over the past 35 years of my life I have had many friends. Some for a very long time; and some for a very short time. There have been the ones that give back what I gave and then there were the ones that took took took and never gave anything back. I am also sure that I did the same thing to others also. Well those are not the friendships I am talking about. The ones I am talking about are the ones that I have put my time and energy into.

Whenever I try to figure this out I remember what one of my aunt's told me about the way people treat you. She said that you teach people how to treat you so if you always do what others want then you are letting them know that it is okay with you that they use you every chance they get. This is so true of friends. And it took me really getting to know my self to realize that if you are truly a friend and someone is truly your friend it is something that is there regardless of the things that you bring to the table. You shouldn't have to pay for a friend and that is with either money or your time and ability. It should be an equal give and take relationship.

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