Jay-Z said, "Have an affair, act like an adult for once". Those words got me to thinking about having an affair. An affair is really an adult thing to do and since I am 36 years old I figure that there is no time like the present. So I set out to plan an affair. It's not an easy process.
Because an affair requires more than just you it takes coordination with the other person and you have to decide on a place and what the atmosphere will be like. There were plenty of conversations being had and a list was made. The time to execute the plan that would make my affair had arrived. I was surprisingly calm in this situation. I did all of my prep work and I was running a bit late for the agreed upon time for the rendezvous. Other than that I was happy to be able to check, having an affair, off of my list of to-do's. Here I go.
I walk into the agreed upon location and I feel an immediate sense of accomplishment. My first thanksgiving for my family, including the new trio that has been recently added, was going off without a hitch. This was a family affair and I was so happy to be able to see as much of my family as I did. This was the largest gathering of my family that wasn't a family reunion or a funeral, in several years. This made me feel pride. This also made me feel a little sad.
Proud because of the fact that my mother and I were able to pull this off and with out any pull-back or aggravation from anyone in the family. She was able to gather her four sisters and two of her three brothers and parts of their family plus my sister, her family and myself and my family, all of them. We were all so pleased with seeing each other and being able to catch up, converse and congregate in this joyous manner. This brings about the sad feeling; eventually.
The sad feeling wouldn't actually come until the next day. This would occur because of the memories that would invade my thoughts about the last time that we had so much of our family gathered together. The last time was over five years earlier and we gathered at a park and had a cookout and played games and clowned around with each other as we always do. That was in August of the year 2006. Well in November of 2006, my aunt passed away [R.I.P. Mary Gathers(Bigma, Sis) Jan. 1, 1937- Nov. 27, 2006]. That is actually the last time there was such a large gathering of our family, only that occasion was not us being happy and jolly as we usually are, it was also for me, the penultimate moment in my family. Things would never really be the same between us as the glue was gone. We were still a family just missing an important part.
I would not take Thanksgiving of 2011 back for anything because I had a terrific time; I just don't want history to repeat itself and that the next time we gather will be for another sad occasion; but just in case it is I am glad that I had an affair.
Because an affair requires more than just you it takes coordination with the other person and you have to decide on a place and what the atmosphere will be like. There were plenty of conversations being had and a list was made. The time to execute the plan that would make my affair had arrived. I was surprisingly calm in this situation. I did all of my prep work and I was running a bit late for the agreed upon time for the rendezvous. Other than that I was happy to be able to check, having an affair, off of my list of to-do's. Here I go.
I walk into the agreed upon location and I feel an immediate sense of accomplishment. My first thanksgiving for my family, including the new trio that has been recently added, was going off without a hitch. This was a family affair and I was so happy to be able to see as much of my family as I did. This was the largest gathering of my family that wasn't a family reunion or a funeral, in several years. This made me feel pride. This also made me feel a little sad.
Proud because of the fact that my mother and I were able to pull this off and with out any pull-back or aggravation from anyone in the family. She was able to gather her four sisters and two of her three brothers and parts of their family plus my sister, her family and myself and my family, all of them. We were all so pleased with seeing each other and being able to catch up, converse and congregate in this joyous manner. This brings about the sad feeling; eventually.
The sad feeling wouldn't actually come until the next day. This would occur because of the memories that would invade my thoughts about the last time that we had so much of our family gathered together. The last time was over five years earlier and we gathered at a park and had a cookout and played games and clowned around with each other as we always do. That was in August of the year 2006. Well in November of 2006, my aunt passed away [R.I.P. Mary Gathers(Bigma, Sis) Jan. 1, 1937- Nov. 27, 2006]. That is actually the last time there was such a large gathering of our family, only that occasion was not us being happy and jolly as we usually are, it was also for me, the penultimate moment in my family. Things would never really be the same between us as the glue was gone. We were still a family just missing an important part.
I would not take Thanksgiving of 2011 back for anything because I had a terrific time; I just don't want history to repeat itself and that the next time we gather will be for another sad occasion; but just in case it is I am glad that I had an affair.
First let me say I love you and the rest of the family. I had a blast. Now on to the topic at hand. Life is what we make it and we must and I mean must do more to make more happy memorable occasions than sad ones. We must put forth a great effort. You have my blessing and support so let's get next year event started. Let's make thanksgiving a family affair in different places every year. I'm throwing my city in the hat right now. Bring the event to New Jersey.
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