Alright I have come to a conclusion about men. They are all a little crazy! I don't mean that in a bad way because I think that men are great creatures, what I mean is that when left to their own devices they will miss out on the good parts of life. I am by no means saying that I am the greatest woman out there. What I am saying is that when I am by a man's side they will definitely have someone to lean on and the support they need to accomplish all of the things in life they may have felt was unreachable.
Things brings me to my friend. Without telling the whole story almost 20 years ago, I was still a teenager and he was in his early 20's and he didn't waste anytime with telling me how he felt, initially. He told me how he wanted to be with me and that he would take care of me and all of those sweet and nice things. Well, after a few months I decided to spend time with him. He and I had so many things in common. We had a very good time together for the next two years and then something terrible happened; I told him I was beginning to fall in love with him. That put the brakes on everything quickly. All of a sudden things aren't going so well anymore. Even though previous to my announcement he told me that if I didn't have kids that I would be his wife (I knew that he couldn't be in a serious relationship with me because he didn't have kids and I did and he wanted to have that experience of having a kid with someone that was having that experience for the first time also) I was young and that was understandable to me.
Well, after that particular situation with the announcement we end up breaking up. We then get back together a few months later. Then about a year later we break up again. He eventually gets married and has a kid. That marriage was doomed from the beginning. I knew it when I heard that he was married. Our three year relationship lasted longer than his marriage. They had no common ground and truth be told he passed me over because he was afraid that he wouldn't be able to take care of a wife and two kids. I was choice number one but the circumstances surrounding my life scared him into a bad situation.
So years later he and I reconnect. The two of us are friends and things are like they used to be. We talk about everything and share moments of our lives together. He tells me what type of woman he is looking for. Here is the surprise, everything he wants is embodied in who I am.
After 5 years of hanging out; I made the mistake again of telling him that I like him. According to him I am the type of woman that he wants right and prior to me telling him this he could see himself married again and possibly having another child. Once he knows that I like him, surprise, he starts running in the other direction again--bastard. You guessed it, all of a sudden he doesn't even want to be in a relationship and he can't say if he wants to be married again in the future. Isn't that stupid given the fact that within the previous year and a half you wanted what your parents have? He is so afraid. I'm not sure if he is afraid of failure or success. I think it's a little of both because he could have his dream woman and have the things he wants in life but what do you do when you get everything you want--I know, you just be happy!
Some men don't want to be happy it would seem or they would see the good thing in front of them and not hesitate to take the chance at living out their dreams.
Things brings me to my friend. Without telling the whole story almost 20 years ago, I was still a teenager and he was in his early 20's and he didn't waste anytime with telling me how he felt, initially. He told me how he wanted to be with me and that he would take care of me and all of those sweet and nice things. Well, after a few months I decided to spend time with him. He and I had so many things in common. We had a very good time together for the next two years and then something terrible happened; I told him I was beginning to fall in love with him. That put the brakes on everything quickly. All of a sudden things aren't going so well anymore. Even though previous to my announcement he told me that if I didn't have kids that I would be his wife (I knew that he couldn't be in a serious relationship with me because he didn't have kids and I did and he wanted to have that experience of having a kid with someone that was having that experience for the first time also) I was young and that was understandable to me.
Well, after that particular situation with the announcement we end up breaking up. We then get back together a few months later. Then about a year later we break up again. He eventually gets married and has a kid. That marriage was doomed from the beginning. I knew it when I heard that he was married. Our three year relationship lasted longer than his marriage. They had no common ground and truth be told he passed me over because he was afraid that he wouldn't be able to take care of a wife and two kids. I was choice number one but the circumstances surrounding my life scared him into a bad situation.
So years later he and I reconnect. The two of us are friends and things are like they used to be. We talk about everything and share moments of our lives together. He tells me what type of woman he is looking for. Here is the surprise, everything he wants is embodied in who I am.
After 5 years of hanging out; I made the mistake again of telling him that I like him. According to him I am the type of woman that he wants right and prior to me telling him this he could see himself married again and possibly having another child. Once he knows that I like him, surprise, he starts running in the other direction again--bastard. You guessed it, all of a sudden he doesn't even want to be in a relationship and he can't say if he wants to be married again in the future. Isn't that stupid given the fact that within the previous year and a half you wanted what your parents have? He is so afraid. I'm not sure if he is afraid of failure or success. I think it's a little of both because he could have his dream woman and have the things he wants in life but what do you do when you get everything you want--I know, you just be happy!
Some men don't want to be happy it would seem or they would see the good thing in front of them and not hesitate to take the chance at living out their dreams.
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