All over social media everyone is saying goodbye 2012 and hello 2013. I know that there is a lot to say about leaving the past behind and moving forward with what ever is happening presently. However, I also understand, thanks in part ot Dr. Phil, but mostly due to me living my own life, the past is a good indicator of the future. Some of the time we have to really examine the past before we are able to make ourselves 100% available to the current opportunities in our lives.
Now, examining the past is a completely different thing from living in the past. Please don't get these two confused because believe me, that will leave you completely confused also. So just to clarify a little I am going to explain the difference. There was a time in my life that I had my finger on the pulse of what was happening in my city. I could pick up the phone and make a call if I needed to know which one of the clubs was going to be the hottest for any given night or what show was the best or who had the livest music. And then when I went to any of these places I didn't have to worry about having to pay to get in. I could just go almost anywhere and do almost anything. That was definetely a different time in my life. Now, if I was living in the past I would still be grasping at that life by still trying to do the things I used to do. I would base my current life around the way that things used to be. I would feel lost and confused at the thought of not being in that space any longer. I am not either of those things nor do I long to be in that place so that means if I speak of those times it is not in a way of longing but just as a part of my history.
Living in the past is not okay but taking a look at your past is the best thing to do for your life especially if you need to move on from something or rebuild some aspect of your life. I have spoken of this before and I am sure that this time is not going to be the last either. For many years I was involved in relationships that were not good for me. I may never have been physically abused but once I took the time to sit back and look at the situations, I realized that they were all either emotionally, mentally or verbally abusive. I would always make excuses for why these relationships were fine. I didn't know that I should and could have better for myself. I would be upset at the end of the relationships also. Then when I realized I should have more I was able to look back. I was able to examine the choices I had made in the past and decide which were advantageous and which were detrimental. The majority of them were bordering on being detrimental, even though in the moment I had no idea. Going back over these situations are what gave me clarity. I was able to get from those experiences what I needed and it allowed me to move forward and let go of the bad decisions. The bad decisions didn't define who I was they were only moments in my history. I was able to be set free from the past. Oh boy, I will tell anyone, it is so much easier to fly when you don't have bricks tied to your wings. Once the bricks are gone the greatest thing happens, when you can soar like you were meant to do, you can no longer accept the things that are crawling on the ground.
Now, examining the past is a completely different thing from living in the past. Please don't get these two confused because believe me, that will leave you completely confused also. So just to clarify a little I am going to explain the difference. There was a time in my life that I had my finger on the pulse of what was happening in my city. I could pick up the phone and make a call if I needed to know which one of the clubs was going to be the hottest for any given night or what show was the best or who had the livest music. And then when I went to any of these places I didn't have to worry about having to pay to get in. I could just go almost anywhere and do almost anything. That was definetely a different time in my life. Now, if I was living in the past I would still be grasping at that life by still trying to do the things I used to do. I would base my current life around the way that things used to be. I would feel lost and confused at the thought of not being in that space any longer. I am not either of those things nor do I long to be in that place so that means if I speak of those times it is not in a way of longing but just as a part of my history.
Living in the past is not okay but taking a look at your past is the best thing to do for your life especially if you need to move on from something or rebuild some aspect of your life. I have spoken of this before and I am sure that this time is not going to be the last either. For many years I was involved in relationships that were not good for me. I may never have been physically abused but once I took the time to sit back and look at the situations, I realized that they were all either emotionally, mentally or verbally abusive. I would always make excuses for why these relationships were fine. I didn't know that I should and could have better for myself. I would be upset at the end of the relationships also. Then when I realized I should have more I was able to look back. I was able to examine the choices I had made in the past and decide which were advantageous and which were detrimental. The majority of them were bordering on being detrimental, even though in the moment I had no idea. Going back over these situations are what gave me clarity. I was able to get from those experiences what I needed and it allowed me to move forward and let go of the bad decisions. The bad decisions didn't define who I was they were only moments in my history. I was able to be set free from the past. Oh boy, I will tell anyone, it is so much easier to fly when you don't have bricks tied to your wings. Once the bricks are gone the greatest thing happens, when you can soar like you were meant to do, you can no longer accept the things that are crawling on the ground.
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