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Old Mother Hubbard

"I believe the children are our future, teach them well and let them lead the way".  The words to this song couldn't be more true.  I truly love to interact with children who are truly wanting to interact with me.  The level of respect that a child shows is the way to know how much that child wants to interact with you.  The reason is, children are inherently unafraid; they will say and do what makes them feel good as long as they feel comfortable.  I love that about children. 

I have my own biological children that are aged 17 and 19.  I love them more than I would ever be able to say.  I am also extremely proud of them.  This pride does not come from their academic lives and all they have accomplished, it is from the fact that when my children were younger, people would ask me, "what do you want your children to be when they grow up".  My answer to that question, and the fact that they have surpassed it is what makes me proud.  My answer was, "I want them to be happy people and good people".  Both of my kids are happy and they are two of the best people I know.  They are individually themselves and neither one of them are unwilling to be the people they are.  This thought always makes me feel so great.  There is, however an aspect of my thoughts with the children that leads me to great sorrow.

This sad feeling I have is not because of anything they did but more of what I have done to them.  Despite the things they have accomplished, I brought them into a life that could have facilitated their failure.  I was a teen aged mom that was unmarried and without a high school diploma when I had my son.  By the time I had my daughter the only thing that changed was that I was a high school graduate.  I am glad that the two of them did not take these flaws in my character as detrimental.  I don't even believe that they have taken these issues as flaws.  I believe they love me in spite of these things and they don't think anything about it because it is what they know; there is nothing wrong with me or the situation I bought them into.  This fact goes in to my further knowing that I have two good people that I have poured all of myself into and feel so wonderful about the fact that they are really good people.

I apologize for the deficits I allowed you to be born into but I don't regret making the choice and I hope that they don't regret that I made this choice also.

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