I think that it goes with out saying, but I am still going to say it, we, as people, are made up of the experiences we have had in our life. This means that even though some people say, you knew better than that, it's common sense, is really a fallacy. There really isn't anything common about what each person individually knows. Sure, as far as the legalities of life you know right from wrong, but my wrong may not be for someone else.
If I grew up in an environment where there was fighting, yelling, cursing, no love and it was always every person for them self, I would think this was the norm for everyone. Or, at the least the way I interact with others would be impacted by the way I was raised. Therefore, if there isn't some sort of hate, or fighting, yelling and cursing, I may not be comfortable in that sort of relationship. The fact that I was raised by parents that I have never heard raise their voices at each other, curse at each other means that I can't really understand that sort of thing in a relationship. If any of those things happen I don't feel good at all. I get physically ill and I want to throw up and my stomach turns into a big knot. I also don't feel like I am being valued by the person I am in a relationship with if any of those things happen. My experience may not be common for anyone else so my aspect of things is definitely different than theirs.
I feel that young children should respond yes or no to an adult not just shrug their shoulders or say yeah or yep. Now, because I taught this to my children this will be a common thing for them but that doesn't mean that anyone else will think that way. So then they can't really say to others when they see a child responding with a yeah or yep, why is that parent letting them do that, it's common sense that they should say yes or no. If that wasn't the parents experience then the child won't necessary experience it either so it is uncommon to them. This is the reason that we have to treat each other according to that person.
I can't really expect for someone else to know how I expect to be treated until I have told them. Now, once they know then the respectful thing would be to treat me accordingly and I will respect the other person according to their needs also. I know that I am an emotional person but my emotions are what causes me to look out for other people in my life. The fact that I love hard, care too much, and empathize is all due to the fact that I am a very emotional person. If you are truly a person that is a part of my life, I will put your needs ahead of mine, I will pay close enough attention to you that I can anticipate your wants and needs, I will love you and love on you when you want it, need it and when you aren't sure about it. None of those things would be so if I hadn't had my life experiences and if I was not the emotional being that I am.
If I grew up in an environment where there was fighting, yelling, cursing, no love and it was always every person for them self, I would think this was the norm for everyone. Or, at the least the way I interact with others would be impacted by the way I was raised. Therefore, if there isn't some sort of hate, or fighting, yelling and cursing, I may not be comfortable in that sort of relationship. The fact that I was raised by parents that I have never heard raise their voices at each other, curse at each other means that I can't really understand that sort of thing in a relationship. If any of those things happen I don't feel good at all. I get physically ill and I want to throw up and my stomach turns into a big knot. I also don't feel like I am being valued by the person I am in a relationship with if any of those things happen. My experience may not be common for anyone else so my aspect of things is definitely different than theirs.
I feel that young children should respond yes or no to an adult not just shrug their shoulders or say yeah or yep. Now, because I taught this to my children this will be a common thing for them but that doesn't mean that anyone else will think that way. So then they can't really say to others when they see a child responding with a yeah or yep, why is that parent letting them do that, it's common sense that they should say yes or no. If that wasn't the parents experience then the child won't necessary experience it either so it is uncommon to them. This is the reason that we have to treat each other according to that person.
I can't really expect for someone else to know how I expect to be treated until I have told them. Now, once they know then the respectful thing would be to treat me accordingly and I will respect the other person according to their needs also. I know that I am an emotional person but my emotions are what causes me to look out for other people in my life. The fact that I love hard, care too much, and empathize is all due to the fact that I am a very emotional person. If you are truly a person that is a part of my life, I will put your needs ahead of mine, I will pay close enough attention to you that I can anticipate your wants and needs, I will love you and love on you when you want it, need it and when you aren't sure about it. None of those things would be so if I hadn't had my life experiences and if I was not the emotional being that I am.
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